Artist dating Artist; The pros and cons.

[Ladessa]

For this discussion I’m going to add very little input until I hear some of your opinions.

Some artist say that they simply refuse to date people within their same business because it can cause competition within the relationship and they tend to clash; Others say that they prefer to date other artist because they tend to have more in common, have a shared understanding, and can work together for a common goal.

What’s you’re take on this topic? Can you date other artist as long as they’re not working within your same genre? What are you’re preferences, and or limitations; Do you have any? Are you a person who prefers to date other artist? What are the pros and cons of dating a fellow artist? Let’s discuss!

-Ladessa Sullivan

[Wisdom Knight]

i think it would be good to date an artist there is nothing wrong with that
it would help with the creativity
a poet dating a painter is tight i think that would really help with all aspects of how things are seen

things in common are good but does that really help with the total love
i mean different people attract

i could date an artist we could sit and vibe for hours
and understand if the other has a problem producing
competition is always good as long as it's fun

"love knows no bounds and art is an expression of ones love towards others"

[Ladessa]

I like that quote! I agree about the benefits... aside for the competition thing within a relationship. That's actually one of my cons of dating some fellow artist... not all are like that, but the ones that are can really work my nerves. I don't like anyone who even resembles an enemy for even a second! lol. I mean that to say healthy competition within a relationship is a oxymoron to me. I could be wrong... but how could any competition with your partner be healthy?! Isn't that like two people on the same team trying to out-do eachother? Huge turn-off for me personally. I don't even like friends and family who feel like they have to compete with me, because I don't do that with others. You know what I mean?!

Widsomknight said:

i think it would be good to date an artist there is nothing wrong with that
it would help with the creativity
a poet dating a painter is tight i think that would really help with all aspects of how things are seen

things in common are good but does that really help with the total love
i mean different people attract

i could date an artist we could sit and vibe for hours
and understand if the other has a problem producing
competition is always good as long as it's fun

"love knows no bounds and art is an expression of ones love towards others"

[Wisdom Knight]

i feel you
i like to battle it's healthy and fun, but i guess it cause i am a guy and we like to stand in cyphers and go at it.
for a lady who is my equal no competition like a bet i like gambling for services within the relationship
like if you can come up with a hot "what ever you do" i will give you a foot rub, cook dinner. you know that kind of competition i love that kind.
see friendly no i'm better than you all art is good art now if i was a painter i would try to get on your level
cause i can't paint

[D Will]

Not sure how this will be viewed but I honestly wouldn't see a problem with dating someone/artist that was in the same business or genre. To me if anything it opens up the possiblity of working together which if anything is what you are supposed to do in a relationship anyway....I say supposed to depending on how you run your own relationships. And lets be real if you feeling someone you had to have been feeling them for more than just the fact they worked in your same genre.

The only con I would see coming from it is depending on the type of person you are would be how that person gives advice or criticism of any of your work especially after the relationship starts. Its one of those things where I don't come to your job and tell you how to do it even if we do the same job, you can suggest but don't tell me how to do it? Its all in how you handle it. But thats only a con if you allow it to be

[Wisdom Knight]

thank you i feel this you are so right hit it on the nail

D Will said:

Not sure how this will be viewed but I honestly wouldn't see a problem with dating someone/artist that was in the same business or genre. To me if anything it opens up the possiblity of working together which if anything is what you are supposed to do in a relationship anyway....I say supposed to depending on how you run your own relationships. And lets be real if you feeling someone you had to have been feeling them for more than just the fact they worked in your same genre.

The only con I would see coming from it is depending on the type of person you are would be how that person gives advice or criticism of any of your work especially after the relationship starts. Its one of those things where I don't come to your job and tell you how to do it even if we do the same job, you can suggest but don't tell me how to do it? Its all in how you handle it. But thats only a con if you allow it to be

[Zion]

I think that it seems a bit different if the two see themselves as in competition with each other. I think artists would make for very interesting and creative relationships. I also feel that way about artists with persons of ANY other profession. Like does a couple of teachers look at what they do as who is the best teacher?. Do mechanics or lawyers do the same? Of course MONEY always rears it head in relationships (i guess along with fame or recognition), but I feel that it should not be looked at as a negative but a very strong positive. BUT artists tend to be very "extremish" or some might say "expressively emotional"going from one extreme to the other frequestly (I am not an artists nor extremeist LOL), and that may be the cause of the tension and not the profession or expression itself.
D will is correct on what lense you view it from.
d

[Ladessa]

*ehem* You're an Artist Zion! When I said "Artist" I'm talking about anyone within the arts; poets, musicians, actors, performers, painters, designers, and all of the above. lol i don't think artist are extreme concerning emotional balance, but they are usually passionate people. It actually makes for a very passionate relationship if the two people mesh well in general.

Zion said:

I think that it seems a bit different if the two see themselves as in competition with each other. I think artists would make for very interesting and creative relationships. I also feel that way about artists with persons of ANY other profession. Like does a couple of teachers look at what they do as who is the best teacher?. Do mechanics or lawyers do the same? Of course MONEY always rears it head in relationships (i guess along with fame or recognition), but I feel that it should not be looked at as a negative but a very strong positive. BUT artists tend to be very "extremish" or some might say "expressively emotional"going from one extreme to the other frequestly (I am not an artists nor extremeist LOL), and that may be the cause of the tension and not the profession or expression itself.
D will is correct on what lense you view it from.
d

[Ladessa]

Interesting D will, very. Personally I typically don't date anyone of any profession if I don't genuinely like what they do. I dated an artist in the past and because we both understand how sensitive artist are about their isht, we know how to speak to one another concerning things that could improve a persons craft. We easily knew how to be of help when it's time to be of help and when to back off and just be respectful of each others vision. When you genuinely believe in your partner and like their vision this doesn't even occur. While on the other hand, non-artist don't always know how to speak on such matters without crossing the line into being offensive... most times purely by accident.

Once again, I truly must say the ONLY pitfall I ever encountered was dealing with someone who likes to compete with their partner. I still say competition has no place within a partnership. It's a negative under current that's bound to collapse the bridge.


D Will said:

Not sure how this will be viewed but I honestly wouldn't see a problem with dating someone/artist that was in the same business or genre. To me if anything it opens up the possiblity of working together which if anything is what you are supposed to do in a relationship anyway....I say supposed to depending on how you run your own relationships. And lets be real if you feeling someone you had to have been feeling them for more than just the fact they worked in your same genre.

The only con I would see coming from it is depending on the type of person you are would be how that person gives advice or criticism of any of your work especially after the relationship starts. Its one of those things where I don't come to your job and tell you how to do it even if we do the same job, you can suggest but don't tell me how to do it? Its all in how you handle it. But thats only a con if you allow it to be

[Black Yoda]

I can date a woman as long as she isn't crazy :-) It doesn't matter to me if we're in the same field or not. We're supposed to be partners so I wouldn't see it as a competition. I would be happy for her if she enjoyed more success than me in the same field. I would hope it would be the same if the roles were reversed.

[Zubyre]

Artists need space to create, so that mixture of personal freedom and being connected to the other is ideal I reckon. I dunno, I kind of like crazy. A person is attractive in how they are different to us, and yet how they are similar.
I don't buy what the older generation (amongst the Asian community particularly which is still pretty much Jane Austen Pride and Prejudice era) says about how someone has to be from the same background in order for a successful relationship. In fact, I believe just the opposite really. Z.

Black Yoda said:

I can date a woman as long as she isn't crazy :-) It doesn't matter to me if we're in the same field or not. We're supposed to be partners so I wouldn't see it as a competition. I would be happy for her if she enjoyed more success than me in the same field. I would hope it would be the same if the roles were reversed.

[Ladessa]

"I would be happy for her if she enjoyed more success than me in the same field." Please clarify this for me. If she HAD more success, or if she Ejoyed striving to be more succesful than you?

Black Yoda said:

I can date a woman as long as she isn't crazy :-) It doesn't matter to me if we're in the same field or not. We're supposed to be partners so I wouldn't see it as a competition. I would be happy for her if she enjoyed more success than me in the same field. I would hope it would be the same if the roles were reversed.

[Black Yoda]

I would be happy for her if she had more success. Hell, she could use her success to put me on :-) It's like when a rapper blows up. You put your homies on regardless of their level of talent (or lack thereof). I think I would be happy if she enjoyed striving for success more than me???? By this, do you mean she may be more committed or aggressive in being successful than me? If she's more passionate in pursuing her art than me, I would support her. I would hope she would support me in whatever area I'm passionate about. There should be some area where my intensity would match hers. (besides the bedroom of course :-) I suppose a lot of this depends on what you consider being successful. She may want to make a living off of her art while I may just want to be creative. If were both pursuing the same thing, but I see she has more drive than me, I wouldn't feel threatened. I might try to match her grind, but it wouldn't be a competition because if she does well, then I do well. And if I do well, then she does well. I know it can be difficult for some people to find a balance. She might throw it in his face if she's doing better than him. He might feel threatened if he isn't doing as well as her. Etc. As long as it isn't an issue for her, it won't be an issue for me.